Insecurities hit all of us. Whether they’re deep-seated from childhood or something we develop over time, we all have negative thoughts about parts of who we are. Some of these beliefs are false and are illusions or exaggerations and some of these beliefs are genuine things we can improve on.
Affirmations. We need to set up the proper foundation to curate how we feel about ourselves. Most of the time we tell ourselves negative thoughts and beliefs and those hold power over us. Negative thoughts are significantly stronger than positive thoughts, so we need to constantly feed ourselves with positive traits we have or positive things we can do to improve. It may seem silly at first, but it works over time.
Perspective. We need to understand the perspective of others. Maybe someone makes fun of us because they’re hurting inside and we need to feel empathetic about that and not let it pass to our minds. Maybe we understand that others are in worse shape than us and if our nose is slightly crooked, it’s not that big of a deal. There are so many perspectives to look at that really put life into place. Even though our flaws are most important to us, seeing the bigger picture can help us let go of the smaller things.
People. Surrounding ourselves with the right people makes a world of difference. We’ve heard the quote, “the closest five people around us makes us who we are”. This is something we shouldn’t take lightly. The closest people we spend time with in person, online, through podcasts, or even video, can greatly affect how we think and who we become. Putting ourselves in an aura of positive, strong-willed people is the best thing we can do for ourselves.
Fighting insecurities isn’t fun, it isn’t easy, and it isn’t sexy. Sometimes these insecurities come from stupid times in our past and have no meaning, but there are real insecurities that stem from flaws we can improve on.
“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I'm like, 'My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don't have it. I just want to chill.' We all have self-doubt. You don't deny it, but you also don't capitulate to it. You embrace it.” -Kobe Bryant